Sunday, 11 January 2015

New Year's Resolutions

I tell myself every year that they're useless, how the stats show that the majority of people that make them don't keep them. I've had doubts as to whether I should create some, but in retrospect of my last year I think that New Year's Resolutions would be the best thing for positive change.

1. Look after my  body

Typical. Almost everybody that has New Year's Resolutions has one to "be healthier", "visit the gym more", "look after my skin", right?  But as of late a lot of things have been steering me to looking after myself more. I think as a young person who is satisfied with their physical image and rarely falls ill I take my health for granted. All the things that I may be complimented on now are not guaranteed especially if I don't take care of them. I definitely don't want to lose my positive attributes, and on top of that regret them, so doing things like looking after my skin, exercising, looking after my diet, my teeth, my hair are all on the list for maintaining this year.

2. Self Care





Looking back on last year I feel I've been too nice, too easy, too cowardly towards people for the sake of being diplomatic or agreeable. I've given more than second chances, let things slide and shrugged them off my shoulders due to my easy temperament towards people, forgiving forgetting nature. So this year, I'm not looking to be cruel, but to be wiser and learnt to put myself first a bit more. Less second chances, less cowardliness, and generally a more honest, deserving treatment of myself.





3.TtTs

I felt that I need to be more productive, achieve more, just so I'm more accomplished after a certain period of time i.e a year. So, I've created the TtTs. Tasks to Tackle. This will consist of me giving myself 10 tasks that need to be completed before the end of that month such as reading a book, memorising a certain bit of Quran or reading its tafsir, researching, tidying, buying this, fixing this,experimenting, you get the gist? I'm also considering doing quarterly, semi-annual,summer, autumn, TtTs for tasks that may be more long term,short term or done in a certain season. I can also record these somehow at the end of the year I can look back and feel accomplished; know that I have progressed in some way shape of form.

4.Be creative, crafty and skillful

I was recently looking back on my school work, particularly art work and graphics coursework, and my sister said "ah, you're actually good at art..." (or something along those lines,) and I agreed. I also miss learning languages which I am quite interested in, and making things, doing crafty, creative things.In one way or another, I'm going to be more creative,experimental and innovative.

5.Money

Every teen of my age seems to want more money, but it seems to make the world go round, its definitely needed. This year not only do I want to make money, but save better, and manage my finances more.Unlike most, I would like to have money not just to spend on myself, but to also spend on experiences with my family and friends, especially my sisters.

6.Be organised

Its essential, and with the pressure of A-levels I think now is a better time than ever to become properly organised, not half organised or even 75% organised with my life, but 100%. So that means timetables, schedules, planners, punctuality and being on point. Hopefully going to create a habit of being organised to the extent that by the end of the year sufficient organisation is not a task but an effortless habit.

Bought myself a diary. I like it especially because purple.


7. Be consistent




Consistency is the "key to success" and so to be successful in these resolutions, ttts and everything o do I'm going to be consistent. Many a time I've stated something and stopped, I've picked up a habit to drop it again and this year is the year I'm going to break the habit and be more productive with my actions. 




Thursday, 1 January 2015

#2014TaughtMe


What a year
A lot.

Sitting here writing this post on page 365 of 365 has made me realise that an actual whole year has passed. That is a lot of time, a lot of time to learn,to grow and experience many things.

The first thing I really learnt this year, is "Carpe diem" - seize the day.

 Looking back has made me realise that I may have missed out on opportunity, simply because I was shy, lazy or procrastinated with what I needed to do. One of the worst feelings is regret; not for what is done, but for what could have been. As much as I have to keep on moving (another thing I've learnt), I do tend to look back for reasons of self evaluation and realise that maybe I could have been better, or different with a little more go and action.

 To balance this out though, I have also told myself that beating yourself up over what is done won't help anyone. I've read that for every minute of sadness, anger, stressing you lose 60 seconds of joy, which is true. As much as sometimes one can't help these emotions, with current retrospect, I've come to realise that maybe there were situations that I could have taken it easier/ been more relaxed.

Thirdly, I've told myself to not assume, and to especially not do so in such a positive manner.

This comes from the unfortunate experiences where I have been let down by people in different cases and ways. Sometimes I feel that I may have high hopes and such a positive mindset that being let down comes more often, but building hope on what isn't certain I feel is more of the problem. High hopes and dreams add drive and motivation to people, so I'm keeping the ambition and working on where I put my trust, hopes and expectations.  I have learned as much as I can hope I have to expect the unexpected, and even the worst. People aren't me, and don't see things or exoect things, or have the same mindset I do so if it doesn't come from me, then I really can't be sure, and that life throws curve balls of misfortune that I'll have to deal with.

I've also opened my eyes to the way people are, the way people and the way people see me. I can't help people's perception of me, but at the same time being aware of what people view can be used to my benefit.

(At this point the bells of Big Ben are ringing, 2015 is here!)

I guess my future hold me trying to find a balance between caring and acting upon it, and not caring and taking people's judgement in my stride.

2014 has taught me a lot of lessons, but 2015 is here and so I feel like I should end this post.

Bring on the new year, bring on 2015!